Letting go of hate and anger is the best favour we can do for ourselves. We should strongly avoid everything that is connected with hate and anger, in order to have a healthy life and happy relationships. Our purpose is to build a system, that will block all the negative effect caused by this feelings.
Hate – intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury.
Anger – a strong feeling of being upset or annoyed because of something wrong or bad.
Remember these words and overwrite them with forgiveness, acceptance, love, passion for success and constant improvement. After all, success is the best revenge.
There is a saying: “Why do I keep hitting myself with a hammer? Because it feels so good when I stop.”
The same goes with anger too. As soon as you realize that this feelings would drain your energy and leave you with nothing, convert them to acceptance and moving on. There is no time for feeling sorry for yourself.
Sometimes anger is justified, but many times it is only a manifestation of our jealousy or personal un-fulfillment. Deepak Chopra said: “If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return.” This is why it is so important to apprehend the reason why we are angry at someone.
1. Triggered reactions – When was the last time, someone made you angry and do you remember why? Our build-up frustration with someone or something, may burst out when least expected. But that doesn’t mean that is the main reason for our anger. You should be true to yourself. Misleading arguments would only make things worse.
2. Taking the liberty for verbal offending – Are you offended and displeased of someone’s comment about your work performance or lifestyle. Think twice before you decide if someone is giving you a constructive critique or offending you with unsupported facts. Everybody is entitled to their opinion, but not always personal opinions should be exposed, or accepted from the other side. Ignoring un-relevant people could be a good practise.
3. Someone betrayed your trust or hurt you – So now you are stuck hating them. But this feeling is so unnatural. Either you move on without them and try to get up on your feet as fast as you can. Let their mistake be your motivation for showing them how fast you recovered and moved on with you life.
The other option is to exclude them from your life, because they are not worth your time, at least not anymore.
Making strategies for revenge or obsessing over something, building up with hate, is a gateway to your personal destruction.
Whenever you feel angry about someone’s action, think – would you rather change it or you accept it. Don’t waste any time in between.