“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength”. So, “If the problem can be solved why worry? If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.”
Here are 5 beliefs held by chronic worriers, broken down to the core of their existence.
Myth number 1. “Repetition is the mother of all learning”, applies only for education.
As we walked out of the apartment, my friend locked the door, and pressed the door knob to make sure it was locked. I continued walking and talking supposing that he was right behind me. After few minutes I realized that he’s not. I returned to his house and found him still pressing on the door knob. I was literally shocked and sarcastically mumbled, “You know, by pressing so many times, you will only make the door knob loose and help a robbery, instead of preventing it”.
Little that I know that he would get so upset by my comment. He was convinced that there is no harm in double-multiply by hundred times checking. “Leave me alone” – he said, “I just want to make sure, so I won’t think about it all day”.
Myth number 2: Not everything you hear over the media is true or you have the power to change it.
After I finally convinced him to let go of the door, we continued talking. He said than he was moreover stressed out, because he was watching some awful documentary of human and animal torture. “I couldn’t sleep all night; I got up in the night and put a whole bunch of furniture in front of my door”. “Then stop watching TV, and go for a run instead” – I furiously replied.
“When a person is in danger, let’s say chased by a wild animal; his body becomes stressed, the survival instinct switches on, the adrenalin rushes in, so he will do anything physically possible to protect himself. The body is in balance, it produces more energy, to use it for protection. But when we watch or hear something that upsets us, the same level of adrenaline is rushed through our body, but because we are not wasting that energy, it harms our body and our mind very painfully.”
Myth number 3: “Before asking a question – Google it”, excludes medical concerns.
“I know” – he replied, “but I’m trying to raise my awareness”. He explained that it all started with a simple dizziness and short breaths, when he decided to search the Internet. One thing led to another and he ended up with diagnoses of few very bad diseases. He spent tons of time and money in examining and the doctors found nothing.
Myth number 4: “Talking to yourself is not as crazy as it sounds”
“Anxiety” – I proudly diagnosed. I asked him, does he feel accomplished and successful for his time of age. He said that 5 years ago, he expected that he will be much more today. Worrying about his failures, he missed some sleep and eating, and while confessing, he interrupted himself with a breakthrough that the symptoms were simply because of weariness and hunger.
Myth number 5: Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
“How did you know, did you had the same problem?” – he asked. Anxiety is common problem among people. Most of us have high expectations of life, which is good, but sometimes destiny or something (unknown) has different plans. By analyzing yourself and being true to yourself, you will become more aware about everything around you including you. By discussing your problems with other people, you either expose yourself in vain or you find some help. But that is a risk you have to make in order to sustain your mental health.